NYTimes: Sharing Practical Truths, in Child-Size Measures
Sunday, April 29th, 2007I saw an interesting article in the NYTimes today (okay, it’s a week old, but I found it today). It basically talks about whether we’re giving our children a realistic picture of what life will be like. I think this is important, and not just in terms of combining having children with a career. Sometimes I think kids are getting an unrealistic picture of how easy life will be. It’s better to explain that some things will require hard work.
After my talk at the Lincoln School, mothers came up to tell me that this was the first time they had ever thought to talk to their girls about the challenges of combining work and parenting. Do any of us think to have those talks?
When we talk to our children about sex, about alcohol and drugs, or about the dangers of the Internet, we give them limitations and warnings. But when it comes to the subject of work, we tell them that they can be whatever they aspire to be; that they should aim high, work hard and dream big.
What we rarely do is tell them how hard some days are. Or that along the road, they might have to compromise, or detour, or backtrack. To warn them would be to discourage them. Or so our thinking goes.